Aronil

I was going through a magazine, which is where I will get some really neat or rather bimbotic stuff at times. Then I came across the section on “20 Things Men Will Never Get About Women”. After giving a read through.. I decided some of them are true and some aren’t - IMO - so here are the one’s that I think work.

1. Women Love to Shop
   As much as we love to be thrifty at times, men will never understand what it is about women when we enter a store. There is the phrase “I eat when i’m upset”, for women we say “I window shop when I’m upset”.. or even “I window shop just because…”. There is some satisfaction when us ladies go into a store. We don’t know what it is, but the minute we see things like a big SALE sign all around.. we can go nuts! So when we go into a store, don’t stop us or grumble, just follow and make the best of it!!!
2. Women Love Being Pampered
   For the last time.. we are not being emo or unreasonable! We just like having fantasies just like how you boys dream about his sports car or the “chick” of his dreams.. Well we like having our prince charming who will manja us. You can whine all you want on it, but if you start a relationship by being nice, sweet and charming to us (I’ll shall elaborate yet again in another post) then you better stay that way till death do us part!
3. Women Hate Being Called Chics!
   In the words of my Monash lecturer, Dr Andrew Ng. It is terrible for males to degrade calling women to into tiny little yellow birds that peck away at food on the ground. Really the way how it is said most of the time by males, ‘chick’, chickadoo, chickadee, chicklet, chick -a-bomb-bomb … all the chick chick chick.. sheesh. Stop it already!!! Either calls us by our names or don’t even bother call us at all!
4. Women Cannot Stand Farts in Public!
   For the life of me I will never understand why men, think it’s ok to do disgusting things like fart and pick one’s nose in public. And HARLO two people in an enclosed area is called public too, cause other people are seeing what you are doing.
5. Women Cannot Stand The Toilet Seat Being Up
   Why why why must you boys always leave the toilet seat up? I mean after you do your business I don’t think it’s too difficult to just put it back down. Why put the cover seat down? Well firstly, it’s really annoying for us to keep on having to touch that disgusting toilet seat ring. Plus who knows what kinda stuff will fall into an unclosed toilet bowl?
6. Women You’re With Don’t Appreciate you Appreciating The Next Woman.
   Please dear boys, when you are with a girlfriend or another girl. Please please keep the thoughts of admiring the next woman in the area to yourselves. I’m sure you can appreciate their beauty in silence. We women don’t like it because, hell, if you are to gasp at every pretty girl, you might as well be farting out gasps all the time. Every girl is pretty in their own way, so quit it. Not unless you go.. “Whoa she’s hot…but you’re hotter honey!”.. if you are with a girl friend. Then you should play silent :P It’s an insecurity thing ^_P.
7. Women Are Not Meant To Be Ordered to Cook and Clean
   Going back to the days of being a feminist. You can’t say it is OUR duty to cook you something everytime you are hungry. You have two hands cook something for yourselves and same goes for picking up the laundry and cleaning the room. You have been blessed with two good hands and two good legs, Use them rather than your mouth, as you play computer games.
8. Women Do Not Like It When You are Nasty To Us As You Play DOTA.
   One of the many reasons, that have made me dislike DOTA, is that all you boys will care about at that moment in time is the stupid game. In fact you become all nasty to us when you play. And if say we did play too, you will scold us for being all noobsies.. Of course we will be!! So have patience and teach instead la!
9. Women Need Their LipGloss
   We have a thousand and one types of lip stuff. Ranging from lipgloss, to lipbalm, lipstick and anything else that is gooey for the mouth. We have many of them, because you just never know when you’ll need it. Also the point of having lipgloss is to not only moisten the lips but to give your face a little colour. So next time do not complain when you are to give us a kiss and you end up getting a glob of gloss on yours. It makes us look good and you as the male always want us to look good. So there.
10. Women Never Mean What They Say…
    Ok this one is a bit tricky. Thing with us ladies, we like to read between the lines alot.. and hence we make everything into a read between the lines process. My dear fellows, just kept that in mind, that we are not as straight forward. If for example we say “You are terrible.. go Away” Then you are to fix the situation and do whatever it is you are NOT doing.

That’s all the time we have today on “The Boy’s Diaries”

There were days long ago, when we did not have to go through so much hassle in order to through a comment out to somebody. I believe it started out with forums, where people will ask questions, discuss and talk to one another.

But to possible bots aka A.I. aka Artificial intelligent beings roaming about, people in front of the screens decided to create challenge-response authentication. What that you say?

Usually in order to do so you don’t need to fill in a “are you human catch phrase” to prove that you are human and not some “I Robot” being that is trying to take over the world by downloading stuff from other people…sheesh.

So there were the days of just type in normal words.

Right so those were the days of when it was still easy to see what they were trying to force us to type out. Those above aren’t so bad. They are still readable. That is.. until i saw this.

What the heck?? Cats? Find the cats hidden in the letters? Worse of all, the letters aren’t even normal letters. No. They are screwed up letters!! Screwed up letters that we have to guess on the alphabet and also whether if i see a darn cat in that letter. My gosh! Why laaaa must they make things so the difficult. Gimme a simple code and that’s enough-i’ll answer.. … do they need to bring the cats in?

Sigh for all the challenge-response authentication I think the cat really was the most OTT one. Peh.

Disclaimer I’m letting out a bomb here.

I want to say this, I am sick… Sick and tired of the how being pretty means popular.

I’m sick and tired of how everything in this world is deemed upon looks to first get around. I’m sick and tired of males oogling drooling over females just because they have to hills at the top and two hills at the bottom. I’m sick and tired that because these males have a fantasy of how women are suppose to look, or how they want their women to look, it has caused girls to become insecure with who they are.

I’m sick and tired to have to hear how women are put down just because of the way they look. I’m sick and tired of the fact of how some girls are given more attention than another just because - just -just because one girl happens to be slightly prettier. It is degrading, insulting and unfair if any body were to treat another person differently just because they are either to chubby, or have zits on their face, or happen to not be super HOT!

I hate the fact on how some people rate one another on their looks. Let me tell you a story of how I was rated.

I had a friend in class, i shall name her Silin and she had a boyfriend who happened to be from the same school as us, whom I shall name as Robby. I was hanging out at Silin’s house and this being her first bf, she gave him a call and was all girly. Thats fine, until of course she had to ask this “Robby, if you were to rate me in looks how would you rate me,” she mushed on the phone. On the other side Robby gave her an answer “Ten out of ten”…Like duh. Then she insisted very much on what was MY rating. She even asked it out loud in front of me to him. Even he was in an awkward situation. If he says I’m a ten he die.. if he says I’m not a ten i’ll get hurt. But hey… suck it up and accept the facts eh? Needless to say after she kept pestering him, he gave an answer. I got a seven out of ten”

Not bad eh… sure but how do you think a person will feel when you rate their looks. Bad enough, we are visual creatures and so the want to look good is always there. If someone so much as says somethings off on your physique… wow… you can so feel the pinch.

Makes me wonder why it is, that some celebrities or people just don’t give a care anymore on how they look. Why bother trying to look good, when it takes so much of work and then you are still going to be seen as the person called the “pretty gene”.

And you know pageants? I think they are painful to girls. Why are beauty pageants celebrated so much international and why can’t it be for Guy pageants as well? Why do the women have to be subjected to something like the looks to get by….

I’m going through a few things in my head right now and this has been an accumulated thought process that kinda just blew up today. It got heightened even more when I was looking at Estee Lauder model search which is on right now. One of us made a comment of how some of the girls have potential because of the looks.

But i argue that for modeling it’s not about looks but rather how well you can pull of a pose for the camera. Cause in the end that pose is going to get someone to buy a product. Looks sure.. but hello there is photoshop.

Then Randy Khoo gave a lovely comment on girls trying out for modeling here in KL.

“To be frank, beauty doesn’t count these days…

Coz EVERY pretty girl all over the country will aim to come KL and make a break…
Everywhere also leng looi… so common la…

Skin deep beauty just means that you have good genes… Nothing else..
Good make up means you got skill and money…

What’s rare is :
Good Energy, A great Personality & a great Outlook of Life…
That Win Pageants my friend… hahahaha”

I throw my hat of to that and also clap. Cause I’m glad for once I get to hear some sort of understanding by the opposite gender and an even compassionate one at that. It’s true, if you have personality. My gosh it doesn’t matter how you look on the outside, but people will be able to see you look beautiful even from the inside. To see an inside beauty shine right out, is rare, but it is possible. To me, that’s beauty and not the “pretty gene”.

Ok this topic came to my mind quite a while back. Of late, I’ve been noticing a little something in our Asian behaviour.

I’m going to give a bunch of scenarios. You know how when you see :

• two people holding hands,
  
• the guy holding the girl from the back,
  
• the girl leaning on a guys shoulders,
  
• the guy using his thumb to gentle caress a girl’s hand
  

Now tell me what do you think is the possibility of those scenarios? The two people you see are obviously a couple? They are two people who are starting out on They are the best of friends who happen to be extremely touchie?

To me, those are all endearing touches of affection which is usually meant for a couple. So i pick choice number one. Naturally too, but what I find intriguing about this is that, even though one would think this is meant for a couple, yet there is the possibility that some of those actions are between close friends.

I don’t know maybe it’s just me our part of asian culture, where we are taught not to touch one another or something. Everytime we see the above scenarios though, we will tease our friends that they are into one another, that they are girly wurly and boyfriendy wendy. On a troubling note, it may also cause couples who are already in a relationship to see their partner having that with another person, just have a hard time.

But it’s interesting, cause I mean if you look at western films, the friends are so comfortable with one another that they are all cool to the holding hands, grabbing one another and leaning one’s head on their shoulders. Basically doing stuff you only thought to be with the person you are having a ‘couple relationship’ with.

So you people tell me is it actually ok, to show those kind of affections that can be misleading?

I did say i was tired..

But I am more tired about this. The whole nang and dang-ing issue on Nuffnang. I personally am a fan of Nuffnang and I always will be because of the people that I have met and know through this service. However what I am not a fan of at this point anymore, is how much drama is going on the blogosphere over who flamed who and who flamed for what. (Flaming in this sense if where one blogger sort of disses another blogger or something like that). It’s just one nasty retort to another.

BTW if one wants to even consider this a “flame” or “flam” or “phlegm” or “flim” or whatever to other bloggers, maybe I am. I’m just really tired. And I don’t care if people are going to be making some retort or no retort at all over this post. I really really can’t be bothered anymore.

Let me explain, Nuffnang has it’s own version of “digg” in a way, and when you click on a post in the Innit system, it automatically “nang” it for the post and if you didn’t like the post you can always “dang” it - in short Digg = Nang and Dang=Bury.

What’s happening here, is that we have bloggers who come up with interesting titles to their post. Maybe not all their titles will lead to interesting content and that’s fine. It happens. But what I can’t stand is how some people are so blardy immature when they see a post that is going up, they want to dang it.

What’s the matter with you???What your posts isn’t going up so? You wanna dang/bury other peoples? What good does that do?

Yeah sure while on one hand, it’s fun and a great read to see what “nastiness” is going on here in the virtual, but on another hand. I find it so DAMN immature! And I’m actually ticked about it, because they are going on and on about how oh something like this post is not meant to be on top like. I mean no disrespect but I’m just feel this whole flaming thing is so entirely lame! And people are making it into like a whole big fuss and thinking its what “cool”?

Probably some fellow bloggers won’t agree with me on this but it’s what I think on this whole…. THING!

Is this what blogging is about? To go ahead and “flame” others, rant on others to just hit back at them? I have never ever liked it when I read about one blogger blasting back at another blogger. There is already so much issues and drama going on in “real” life and now you wanna put it all here too? Come on! Enough! I’d even rather read about the humorous post on what you had for lunch or what stupid stuff you saw at work, than have to read on another raging, burning, flaming post.

If you don’t like a post or a blogger for that matter. Don’t read it/ their blog and in fact don’t even comment. Does one actually think that if you were to comment something nasty there will be any satisfaction? Maybe for that moment sure.

Oh and another thing. I am admitting that at one point I did look a lot at Innit, just to see if my post had gone up and sure there are times it didn’t. I accepted that and there is a very good reason that I don’t go to Innit as much anymore, because I’ve realised that its like an addiction to see stats go up. Almost like gambling. So unless I find there is a “cause” or an important message I want to share. I’ll put up something on Innit. If not… I just don’t find the joy of putting it up anymore… Forgive me on that… Cause I don’t want to be all naggy ranty about it and then asking help from others to “Nang” it..

Sigh…

I’m not saying there is a right way to blog, rather I just don’t want to have too see good friends get sucked into the whole blasting thing. That’s just my opinion and I really do like the bloggers who stick to their ethics or beliefs on blogging…